Wedding RSVP Wording: 10 Ways to Ask Guests to Reply

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RSVP wording needs a deadline, a clear way to answer, and a friendly tone. These examples work for formal and relaxed weddings, with reminders for those who forget.

Asking for a reply
Meals, plus-ones and children
Gentle reminders
Collecting answers in one place
Frequently asked questions

Asking for a reply

FormalKindly reply by [date].

TraditionalThe favour of a reply is requested by [date].

WarmPlease let us know by [date] whether you can celebrate with us. We hope you can!

CasualTap the button to tell us if you’re coming. We need to know by [date] so we can order the cake!

Meals, plus-ones and children

Meal choicePlease choose your main course when you reply: [option 1], [option 2] or [vegetarian option]. Let us know of any allergies.

Plus-oneWe have reserved [number] seats in your name. Please tell us who will be joining you.

Adults onlyMuch as we adore your little ones, our celebration is for adults only. We hope you can enjoy a night off!

AccommodationIf you need a room, tell us when you reply and we will send you details of nearby hotels.

Gentle reminders

Reminder 1Hi [Name], we’re finalising numbers for the wedding. Could you let us know by [date] if you’ll be there? You can answer with one tap: [link]

Reminder 2Last call! We need your reply by [date] to confirm the caterer. Even a no helps us plan: [link]

Set your RSVP deadline 4 to 6 weeks before the wedding, and your caterer’s final number about 2 weeks before. When you chase, keep it short and kind. Many people simply forgot.

Collecting answers in one place

On Invitation Vivante, guests reply by tapping, and answers (attending, meal, allergies, kids) arrive in a live dashboard. Non-responders are listed separately, so reminders take seconds. Creating, previewing and sending by link are free up to 7 visible replies. After that, pay once: Essential €14.90 (20 replies), Complete €49 (60 replies), Grand €89 (150 replies) or Wedding €129 (unlimited replies), all including VAT. The optional keepsake MP4 film is €9.

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Creating, previewing and sending by link are free up to 7 visible replies. After that, pay once: Essential €14.90 (20 replies), Complete €49 (60 replies), Grand €89 (150 replies) or Wedding €129 (unlimited replies), all including VAT. The optional keepsake MP4 film is €9.

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Frequently asked questions

What does RSVP mean?

It comes from the French “répondez s’il vous plaît”, meaning please reply.

When should the RSVP deadline be?

Usually 4 to 6 weeks before the wedding.

How do I ask about children?

Say clearly on the invitation whether children are invited, and name the seats reserved for each household.

Wedding RSVP wording: 10 ways to ask guests to reply